The She’s Brave Podcast

Charmaine’s Story: From Feeling Not Good Enough to Deciding To Love Herself

In today's episode, I welcome guest Charmaine Moore. Charmaine is here to talk about building confidence, learning to be brave, and what it takes to transform your life. She is the founder of Face of Hope and Beauty Lifestyle Coaching.  In addition to that, Charmaine is also a wife, mother, inspirational speaker, self-love queen, and advocate for suicide prevention. Her mission is to empower women to stand in pace and power while enjoying the life that they live. She shares openly and honestly about a pivotal point in her life in 2014, two days before Mother's Day, when a decision she made changed her life profoundly.

Charmaine understands first-hand how challenging learning to love yourself can be. She has experienced depression, anxiety, rejection, and abandonment, as well as physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. As a suicide survivor, she aims to help other women through Face of Hope and Beauty to transform their lives.

She shares the tools that she has found helpful in this transformation, such as showing yourself grace, using affirmations, seeing a therapist, practicing self-acceptance, and more.

It's important to know that you don't have to be perfect, and to give yourself permission not to be. Part of being brave is vulnerability, and vulnerability is accepting the parts of yourself that aren’t perfect. Be brave enough to show all parts of yourself.

Charmaine wants to reaffirm that you matter, and she encourages you to remind yourself of that. You can redefine yourself and write your own story. Reach out to someone you trust if you need help.

 

Connect with Charmaine:

Website: https://faceofhopeandbeauty.com

Instagram: @faceofhopeandbeaty

 

Connect with Tiffany:

Website: https://www.aworthyjourneytc.com/

Instagram: @aworthyjourneytc

 

Disclaimer:

In today’s podcast we talk about suicide, suicide ideations and thoughts of suicide. If this is something you struggle with this interview may be triggering for you and you may want to skip this episode. Reach out to a mental health counselor or the below resources for support if this is something that you struggle with as well.

 

Suicide Prevention Hotline: 988

Suicide Prevention Website: https://988lifeline.org/

Find A Therapist- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us

 

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Confidence Myths that Won’t Build Your Confidence

Girl alright so I didn't want to get started on this subject but I will. There is so much going around about confidence. We get advice like, ‘Fake it until you make it’ ‘Stand up tall’ ‘Walk into the room like you own it’  ‘All you need is the perfect outfit and makeup’  “Its all the shoes, what shoes you wear is an indicator of how much money you make”. 

 

And this is all wrong. And it leads us to believe that as long as our external appearance is taken care of and we're “pretending” to be confident then we will.  Yes, when you look good you do feel good and yes some of these things will help be SUPPLEMENTS to your confidence, but they aren't the foundation. Sorry in advance for the rant I’m about to make.

 

Want me to tell you what actually builds our confidence?  It is knowing and OWNING who you are, speaking your mind, and letting others know your thoughts, feelings, and opinions. It's speaking up and standing by your own thought and opinions even when others disagree and it may be scary to speak up. It's having boundaries, limits, and standards for yourself. It is living your values and honoring them day to day in your daily actions, words, and behaviors. It is being assertive and standing up for your right to be who you are, respected, loved, and honored as you are now. 

 

It is creating your own path and trusting yourself that you will catch yourself if you fail. It is knowing your worth is not tied to anything or anyone external to you. It is knowing that only you and no one else can validate your worth. It is speaking up and showing up for yourself every single day. It is showing who you are to others even when it feels scary, vulnerable or you fear rejection. It is expressing and honoring your wants and needs. It is being kind to yourself and giving youse self grace. It is knowing that what you think and feel about yourself is the ONLY opinion that matters. It is taking risks. It is having integrity. 

 

And it's not a quick fix or overnight success, It takes work and practice. It takes failing and falling but never giving up on yourself. It takes persistence. It is a continuous process and by no means easy. But is possible and with practice, you can get there.

 

I know because I’ve gone through this journey myself and each and every day provides me an opportunity to practice the things above. The things we don't realize is that each time we make a decision it can hurt or help our self-esteem, and what we believe about our own self-worth. What will you choose? Will you choose superficial confidence or real, deep, lasting satisfied confidence? I know what I chose and continue to choose.

 

 

How to Build Self Trust

Welcome to She’s Alive to Thrive. I'm Tiffany, therapist and certified confidence coach. These lessons I share are all the little nuggets of information I have learned, relearned, or have been helpful for my clients who are on their journey to being self-respecting, self-loving, strong women. 

 

Alright, so today I want to talk about one surprising thing that has really been a boost to self-trust. And of course, having self-trust is a building block to building confidence.

But first I want you to think about this friend. Think about a friend who always breaks their promises to you, who doesn’t show up for you when they said they will, who lies, and who is inconsistent with their actions and words. How would you feel about a friend like that? What would you think? Would you trust them? Or would you think to yourself “Yeah right”, “I won’t get my hopes up” I’ll believe it when I see it”?

 

And I want you to think about yourself. Have you done any of these? Just like your closest friends and family earned your trust, and in fact, they could lose it or do things that make you question your trust in them, it's the same with you. What does your track record look like with yourself? What do you think about the things that you promise to yourself and the word that you make to yourself? Would you like you as a friend to yourself if they behaved the way you behave towards you?

 

We don’t sometimes realize how much our own actions speak volumes to us and the more and more we behave in certain ways towards ourselves then it becomes not only who we think we are but also we are set a negative reputation with ourselves. And these actions can either build the trust we have within ourselves or break it.

 

So how can you begin to trust yourself more you say? It comes down to keeping your word. Keeping the promises you made to yourself, honoring your word to yourself as much as your word to someone else. Proving to yourself that your word to yourself is just as valuable and you are just as valuable as someone else. 

 

So today is a call to keep your word and honor the word that you gave to yourself. When I sat down to write a post or email I realized that I wasn't always consistent. I sometimes brushed it off like it could wait or that other things took priority. I sometimes felt because I was the only one holding myself accountable that it didn't matter because I was the only one I had to answer to. Or I would make up an excuse for why it didn’t matter.

 

It didn't occur to me that every time I sat down or didn’t that I was reinforcing a belief or behavior that either would help me or hurt me. The more I didn't show up the more I believed I was just lazy or didn't have the will to do it or even maybe that it wasn't the right thing to be doing. 

 

Now I know that it's much more important than that. Every time I show up and do what I set out to do I’m showing myself that I can trust my word. That I can trust that I will follow through for myself. Thay my word to myself is important and just as important as my word to anyone else. So here are a few steps to start practicing this. 

 

I want you to schedule something in your calendar that you've been putting off. Something small, something that will take less than an hour. And in this process, I want you to acknowledge and accept any resistance that comes up when it comes time to do it. Be kind to yourself in this process and know that some days you may feel like it and others you won't but you can be kind and understanding to yourself in the process anyway. Then I want you to do it. Then rinse and repeat. See how you feel about your word a week from now after continuously showing up for yourself and keeping your word to yourself. 

 

I want to hear from you. How will you honor your word to yourself this week? If this is something you struggle with I would love to have a quick chat to see what’s really getting in your way. Until next time Tiffany

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

No matter who we are, we all do it. We compare our situations to others, we compare what we have, how we look, and who we are with other people. And this can lead to feelings of jealousy, insecurity, or in some cases inspiration.

 

And when you compare yourself to someone else it usually leaves you feeling not good enough, yearning for more. However, the more you compare yourself, the worse you feel about yourself. With each new person comes something different you can change, better you could be, and something different you could become.

 

But how do you break this cycle? How can you strive for excellence while still being appreciative and content with who you are? There are a few things I want to point out first. 

 

We are all so different

 

I think we forget or don't acknowledge how different we all are. All our lives and who we are are tailor-made to each of us based on our values, preferences, experiences, desires, goals, and priorities. 

 

When we look at someone or their life we are looking at a life that they created for them based on what they want and what they value. Your life is created based on what you want and value. It's unfair and unbalanced to compare someone else's life to yours because they can be so vastly different based on who you are and what you want. 

 

What they have might look nice but does it align with what you value and what you want your life to look like? If you had all the time, energy, and resources to do the things that they are doing would you? Or would it feel like a big waste of time or a chore? 

 

One thing I hear a lot is when people see others on social media on lavish vacations. They look at this person with envy(understandably so because who wouldn't want to be on a beautiful island instead of working in a cubicle) and wish they could be able to do the same. 

 

Now think about you and your style. If you had all the resources in the world, would you want to spend 8 hours traveling, and save thousands of dollars for a year or more to be able to afford an island vacation, do you even like beaches, or do you prefer the mountains, what does your best vacation look like? And the list can go on. 

 

What it comes down to is how does this fit with who you really are, what you really want, and are you willing to put in the work necessary to get that?  If no, then there may be something that is better suited for you, and no need to compare. We can acknowledge the beauty of it without it making us feel worst about ourselves. If yes, then how can we help you get closer to what you really want?

You will never be happy when you compare

 

When you compare yourself with someone else you will never be happy. There is always something to strive for or someone who has something that you don’t. The more you compare the more focused you are on what you don't have, how someone is “better”, and what is wrong. 

 

And when we focus on the negative after a while that's all our brain will see. You won't see the beauty that you do have that someone else doesn’t or the things that make you special and unique.

 

 You won’t see the things that you do have that others don't, the things that you actually admire and appreciate about yourself. How can you strive to be the best and most authentic version of yourself and strive for excellence in who YOU  are? 

 

Instead of trying to be like someone else or have what they have. How can you turn that attention and focus on yourself to be the best version of yourself or maybe even get to know yourself enough to know what will make you happy? 

 

A better solution

 

A better solution is to figure out who you are, and what you ACTUALLY want, and make a plan for getting the things that will actually fulfill you. 

 

When you chase after the things that other people have you are chasing an image, an ideal, and sometimes a desire. But how will these things actually fulfill you, make you feel happy and grateful? 

 

Focus on the things that actually bring you happiness and joy, not what society or everyone else has told you will bring you happiness and joy. 

 

When you are happy and content with the person you are and the life you have created for yourself, yes comparison and envy may creep in from time to time, but you will be so happy and content with the person you are and the life you’ve created that it won’t make you feel inferior or bring you down this dark hole of wishing you were different. 

 

So my biggest advice for you is this. Acknowledge the things that you want, get to know yourself and what you value and want for your life, and start taking small steps to make it a reality.

 

When you see yourself comparing,  take note of what the real desire is behind it and let go of the things that you know you really don't want but look nice. Acknowledge that you like what they have but don’t want it for yourself. The easiest combat for comparison is admiration and gratitude, you can admire what they have at the same time not make it mean anything about you or your worth. 

How does comparison benefit you? What do you hope to gain by comparing yourself to someone else? And how does it impact your happiness? We all want to be happy which is what makes comparison so easy and why we all do it. If you struggle with comparison and want to see how I can support you, book a complimentary consultation so we can see how I can support you. https://calendly.com/shesalivetothrive/complimentary-consultation

How to Enforce Boundaries

If you’ve read my previous post, on how to create boundaries in relationships then you may be wondering now that you know what your personal limits are, how do you express to others your newfound limits and boundaries? 

 

I want to preface this by saying if this is new for you or if you’ve had loose boundaries before with others it is completely normal to be nervous and maybe even a little doubtful about not only creating boundaries but enforcing them as well. Think about it, if you've spent a large majority of your time letting people do and say what they want, of course, it would be difficult to change the habit and dynamic.

 

With that being said now that you have created your new limits how do you enforce them with others? 

 

As a preliminary step, I want you to get real with yourself about what you hope to gain by building stronger boundaries. Are you hoping for greater self-respect and peace, stronger relationships, balance in relationships, and pride in yourself by standing up for yourself? Don’t skip this step because it is essential. How will your life and the way you feel about yourself be different? How will your relationships be different? Ok, got it? Good, now on to how do you enforce boundaries with those around you?

 

Ok, the first thing to remember is that your boundaries are about YOU your limits, and what you feel comfortable with. They are the things you want to put in place to not only take care of yourself but also get your needs met. When verbally expressing them to others they should be stated calmly, short and simple. Keep in mind that this is not a debate with the other person or a compromise of what they think your limits should be. They simply are your limits and what you need. With that being said, here are a few examples of how you can enforce your boundaries with others. 

 

Scenario: A family member calls you during work hours when you are unavailable.

Your need: Minimal personal interruptions during work hours

Boundary: “Hey, I’m not available between 9am-5pm during the week, I’ll call you when I get off work”

 

Scenario: A friend is consistently late when you have dinner dates 

Your need: Your time to be taken into consideration, your friend to arrive on the agreed upon time or them to communicate when they will be late 

Boundary: “Hey, I’ve noticed you’ve run late for a few of our dinners. Can you let me know when you’ll be late?” 

 

Scenario: A co-worker is inquiring about your salary

Your need: You want to keep your finances personal

Boundary: “Hey, I don’t discuss my finances at work”.

 

The first thing I want you to realize, from PsychCentral, is that this is not to tell people that they are wrong, bad or what they should do. This is a statement of what you will do, what you want, and how you will behave if this person behaves a certain way. Remember the only person you can control is yourself. You are not responsible for anyone else's actions or their response to your boundary.  Also, their response has nothing to do with you. 

Consequences

 

Alright, now let's say you’ve set the boundary, made your intentions clear, and what you want. After you’ve clearly and calmly expressed what you want if others continue to disregard your needs, then your next step is action. As I've mentioned before, the only person you can control is yourself. Which leads me to consequences. If this person continues to push or not respect the limits that you’ve created, what will be the consequence? That could look like a number of things. That could mean you no longer answer their calls(in the case of telling others you are unavailable), locking your office door, or putting a do not disturb note on your door(to prevent interruptions), it could be disengagement and letting the other person know you can continue when calm(in the case of someone speaking to you in a manner that makes you feel icky), or flat out ending or limiting contact in cases where your boundaries continue to be disregarded. Whether you express these consequences to others or keep them as mental notes to yourself on how you will behave is up to you. 

Resistance 

Lastly, how do you handle the resistance you may receive from others when you begin these new habits and set these new limits? Of course when the dynamic of any relationship changes there will be some resistance to the new changes. My best advice for managing this is to make it about you, your limits, and what YOU feel comfortable with as PsychCentral mentions, letting the other person know there is a possibility that you are wrong. Your boundaries are put in place to take care of you, allow the balance of needs in your relationships and help you get what you need. Your boundaries as mentioned from PsychCentral(can you tell I loved this article) should be short and simple, stated calmly based on what you need so that they are not in a position of debate or swaying from the other person. It will take some practice for both you and the other person to get used to your new boundary but will time the dynamic can change. 

When you do not create boundaries in your relationships not only does it disregard your needs but it creates an imbalance in relationships. Which can lead to resentment, anger, and of course unmet needs, which leaves you with the lower hand in relationships. It prevents you from getting what you want and need from relationships and can diminish the trust and respect you have for yourself. By creating boundaries in your relationships not only are you respecting your wants, needs, and limits you are also creating the foundation for healthier, stronger, and more respectful relationships. 

So how will you start to create and enforce your boundaries in your relationships? Comment below. And if you recognize that creating and maintaining boundaries is difficult for you and would like support, book a complimentary 30-minute telephone consultation with me so we can chat about what is getting in your way.

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How a Boudoir Photoshoot Can Help You Feel Sexy, Beautiful and Brave

I am talking to Victoria Blaire Svensson today, a former nurse who transitioned into a new career as a full-time boudoir photographer in Cleveland. Victoria loves providing a boudoir experience that opens the door for women to explore and embrace different sides of themselves completely free of judgment.

Boudoir provides an opportunity for people to be open and vulnerable. The session is a space for clients to step outside of their comfort zone, grow, and come out the other side with amazing photos. Victoria’s boudoir style is laid back, intimate, and natural. She loves creating an experience that utilizes dark and moody settings, loungewear, and personality where she works to show women their own beauty.

The best part about a boudoir photo shoot is truly embracing the whole experience and is a really empowering experience. Victoria loves popping champagne and playing fun music for her clients. She’s also not afraid to get on the other side of the camera and get a feel for what her clients are going through so she can make their experience that much more comfortable.

Many clients arrive at a photoshoot with nerves, and that’s normal. Victoria is there to reassure her clients and guide them through the process with posing tips and a relaxed atmosphere — she’ll even help you nail the sultry expressions. All you have to do is bring yourself. Listen to today’s podcast to hear more about boudoir and how it can help you grow your confidence.

 

 

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Website: https://www.boudoirvb.com/

Instagram: @vblaire_photography

 

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How to Set Boundaries in Your Relationships

My dear my dear, today I want to talk about something that is so important for your mental health and the health of your relationships. The thing that will either have you feeling empowered and in control of your relationships or like a complete doormat. If you didn’t guess it, today we’re talking about boundaries. 

 

If you’re feeling disrespected, walked over, small, or taken advantage of them I had you in mind when creating this.

 

So if you aren’t familiar with boundaries and either weren’t taught or didn’t see other authority figures in your life having clear, straightforward boundaries then this may be something you’ve struggled with in your relationships and had no idea why. 

 

The lack of boundaries in our relationships can leave us feeling like we have the lower hand in relationships and essentially take or accept any behavior from others.

 

So before I give you a few starting points on how to create boundaries what are they in the first place.

 

Boundaries are:

 

The personal limits you set for yourself

The standards or expectations on how you want to be treated 

The things you have in place to allow you to protect yourself and have your own back 

A form of self-care and a way of taking care of yourself 

 

Boundaries can look like…

I don’t take phone calls during work hours 

I will not allow anyone who is unkind to be in my life and space 

I have to have sufficient alone time to refresh 

I will not accept physical or emotional abuse from anyone in my life 

I prefer not to be hugged by strangers 

Kisses are acceptable after the first date only 

I don’t loan money to others 

 

Anything that makes you feel safe, and comfortable, and in alignment with your values. And literally, they can be anything.

 

The thing is everyone’s boundaries are different and they are based on our personal needs and preferences. 

 

So if you find yourself feeling unsafe, uncomfortable, and irritable, chances are a boundary of yours has been crossed. 

 

So what are the first steps to creating and maintaining boundaries?

 

1. Figure out what works for you. As I mentioned our boundaries are all very personal to us. So what might not be ok for your friend might be acceptable to you. It’s based on what YOU feel most comfortable with.
2. Using the above figure out what your limits or standard are for how you would like to be treated and what would make you feel respected, safe, and comfortable. That can look like some items from the list above or something completely different 
3. Enforce the boundary. Here is where the work comes in. You have to let people know what is and what is not ok with you. And yes, I know this part can be scary. Especially creating new boundaries in a relationship that is established. And I can’t promise you that there won’t be any resistance to the boundaries you set. But keep in mind this is for you and to make sure you are comfortable/take care of yourself.

 

Setting boundaries and limits can be any number of things. And I’ll be talking about that in the following post.

 

For now, think about how you can take better care of yourself and what boundaries would help support you in that goal?

 

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Is my indecisiveness a sign of low self confidence and self trust?

How might your indecisive be impacting how much you trust yourself? In today's podcast we'll talk about how making decisions and living your life for you will help build your confidence. 

How to Practice Self-Care In a Relationship

How is your lack of self-care impacting you and your relationship? Today we're going to be talking about how maintaining healthy self-care will not only improve your happiness and health but improve your relationship as well.

 

But first, why do we fear being selfish? Why is it that we worry that if we decide that we are important enough to take care of then there will be some negative consequence? There are so many posts out there that have to reassure us that if we make ourselves and needs a priority then we are not evil people who aren’t concerned about other people. Like why does it have to be that extreme? And who says we can’t both take care of ourselves and support others as well?

 

Ok, off my soapbox.

 

Onward, so what does a lack of self-care look like in a relationship?

 

It looks like changing your plans last minute to accommodate someone else.

 

Sometimes being attached at the hip and not having any time for yourself and your own personal interests.

 

It can look like always going along with what the other person wants and never really saying what you want and need.

 

It can also be constantly saying yes when you want to say no and letting someone cross the line over and over again.

 

Some other things that come to mind include,  not speaking your mind, taking the short end of the stick, and just going with the flow of how the relationship is going instead of saying what you want.

 

These are some of the ways we can betray ourselves in relationships, which leads to a deterioration of our self-trust, respect, and at times feeling like we can’t or don’t know how to get what we need in our relationships. It can feel like just taking what you can get, and who wants that.

 

So how can you take care of yourself in your relationship:

 

The number one thing is to say what you want and how you feel (cue scary music). Yes, so many people struggle with this but it really is your most powerful tool.

 

You can set appropriate boundaries, including saying no and letting your partner know when they have crossed the line.

 

Self-care also looks like you having your own goals, interests, and relationships outside of the relationship.

 

Please, please, please don’t forget about your friends and family during that initial honeymoon phase. They are your support system and as a bonus the time you spend with them will help you miss your spouse. Plus no one likes codependency.

 

Make time for yourself and hobbies a priority as well. Yes, I had to say it again. See above.

 

Other ways you can practice self-care also include all the usual self-care things like taking care of your health(mental and physical).

 

And as a final note taking care of yourself included who and what you will not allow into your space. So do not ignore or accept harmful, negative or toxic behavior.

 

Self-care also looks like continually improving yourself and your relationship. When you show up as your most healthy, happy self you improve the quality of your relationship as well.

 

 

Self-care is essential, not just for your romantic relationship but in any relationship that you are in. Without setting proper boundaries, independence or making ourselves a priority it can lead to unmet needs and losing ourselves and our identity in relationships.

 

 

How can you start to make your needs a priority? What support do you need to overcome the barriers that lead you to continually people please and put others first? I would love to hear how I can support you, email me here.

 

 

Questions to think about. How would your life be different if you took care of yourself and made your needs a priority? What has been making It hard for you to take care of yourself and your needs? What do you feel like you would have to lose to take better care of yourself? How might your relationships be better if you took care of yourself? And what if you did nothing, continue as is? What has been the impact on your relationships now? What are you wanting to change?

Examples of Low Self Esteem

Do you ever wonder if you have low self-esteem? Or maybe you suspect you have issues with self-esteem and are wondering if that true. Today I’ll be giving you showing you the sneaky ways low self-esteem may be showing up in your life.

 

I’ve struggled with low self-esteem for many years of my life but I had no idea that I had issues with low self-esteem. The way my self-esteem showed up was in these small ways.  By people pleasing, not telling people what I wanted, letting people walk all over me, feeling afraid to speak up and say what I wanted or how I felt. I always felt like I was the victim to other people’s wants and demands. I never really felt like I was getting what I wanted out of life and my needs often felt ignored or unimportant.

 

Because of this need to please and this fear of the uncomfortable it led me to become very avoidant. Avoidant of confrontation, avoidant of anything uncomfortable, avoidant of speaking my mind for fear of upsetting other people. I avoided things that were emotionally difficult for me which led me to becoming very passive in life and in my relationships.

 

And this pattern led to years of depression and kind of just going with the flow. It wasn’t until years of these that I had had enough, and I had to really confront what was going on. I wanted more for myself, my relationships, and my overall quality of life. And it was then after talking to a therapist that I realized I had issues with low self-esteem.

 

I was confused because I projected this perfect person who was agreeable, I succeeded in school, met my goals with ease but internally my relationship with myself was terrible.

 

So if your in the same boat I was in years ago. Here are some examples of low self esteem to help you decide for yourself:

 

But first what is self esteem: Self-esteem is the internal feelings you have about yourself. It is your measure of how much you value and like yourself simply.

 

Some examples of low self esteem are:

 

Inability to express wants needs and desires

Not knowing or understanding your individual  wants needs and desires

Feelings unworthy of love and respect

Feeling unable to manage and overcome challenges

Issues setting limits and boundaries in relationships

Recurring negative internal dialogue

Constant internal criticism with regards to appearance, success, abilities, etc

Second guessing  your actions often

Questioning other’s perception of you often

Self-hatred-anger and frustration about who you are

Inability to forgive self for small mistakes

Feelings of worthlessness or inferiority

Recurrent people pleasing

Struggle with assertiveness, communication or social anxiety

Low drive to succeed and/or having little direction in life

Inability to trust own choices and opinions

Overthinking and worry

Afraid to take  on challenges

Over apologizing

Difficulty prioritizing your wants, needs and feelings

Avoiding confrontation

Difficulty making decisions

Difficulty taking constructive criticism and negative feedback. Make take things very personally

Difficulty saying no

 

This is not an exhaustive list but it is a start. As you can see low self-esteem can show up in many ways. Some very obvious, and some not.

 

Sometimes we may have low self-esteem or our feelings of low self-worth show up in these sneaky ways. When we project this perfect image, this person has it all together. Our representative is what I’ll all her we miss an opportunity to authenticity and showing others who we really are and what we really want. On the inside we may feel like victims, unworthy, unable, we feel less than and insecure. Low self-esteem doesn’t have to be a broadcast, a big show, obvious to everyone around us. It shows up most with the internal relationship we have with ourselves, who we believe we are, what we believe we are capable and what we believe we deserve. And because of these beliefs, it drives everything we do, feel and how we show up in these subtle ways.

 

Everything you do, every choice you make is a string of decisions that add to your destiny. If this is something that you struggle with, I would love to hop on a quick call with you to hear your story and your struggles. I would love to support you in creating the positive internal dialogue and bravery-driven steps that will change your destiny. And if you’re not ready for that take a look at how you show up in your life more authentically?

 

What has your relationship with yourself stopped you from doing? What does that internal voice tells you you aren’t capable of? Do you want to stop giving that voice so much power? And if so, what would be possible for you if you did? Comment is this was helpful.