The She’s Brave Podcast

Understanding the Roots of People Pleasing

Hey Brave Ones! It's Tiffany here, and today we're digging into something that so many of us struggle with: people-pleasing. Have you ever found yourself feeling anxious just at the thought of saying "no"? Or maybe you wonder why setting boundaries feels so natural for others but leaves you feeling overwhelmed?

In this episode, I’m taking you back to the root of people-pleasing. We're going to explore how early experiences and beliefs shaped your tendency to put others first, even at your own expense. I'll share some of the most common messages I hear from my clients, like feeling responsible for others' emotions, believing your worth has to be earned, or fearing abandonment if you show your true self.

If you've ever questioned why you struggle to put yourself first, this episode is for you. Let's uncover the why so we can start building that confidence from the inside out. Trust me, you’re not alone on this journey. Tune in, reflect, and be sure to share this episode with someone who needs to hear it!

What is Healthy Self-Confidence and How to Recognize Signs of Low Self-Esteem

What is confidence, really? And how do you know if yours is healthy, needs a little TLC, or could use a full-on confidence reboot?

In this episode, we’re breaking down what confidence actually is and what it’s not. We’ll talk about the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem (spoiler: they’re related, but not the same thing) and explore what healthy confidence looks like in everyday life.

We’ll also unpack some common warning signs that your self-esteem might need attention, like feeling “less than” others, battling a loud inner critic, struggling to set boundaries, or falling into people-pleasing patterns.

If you’ve ever wondered whether self-confidence coaching could help you feel more grounded, empowered, and authentic, this episode is for YOU.

Because at the end of the day, real confidence isn’t about perfection - it’s about self-respect, self-love, and showing up as your true self.

3 Coaching Tools to Boost Your Self-Confidence

Thinking about working with a confidence coach but not sure what to expect? In this episode, I walk you through some of my favorite self-confidence coaching tools that I use with clients to help them build self-esteem, overcome people-pleasing, and step into their most authentic selves.

 

You'll learn about:

✔️ The Wheel of Life – a powerful tool for assessing different areas of your life
✔️ The Values Assessment – how aligning with your values can bring clarity and confidence
✔️ The Bravery Ladder – a step-by-step approach to confronting fears and showing up authentically

 

If you're ready to break free from self-doubt and start trusting yourself, this episode is for you! Tune in now and take the first step toward a more confident YOU. 

Self-Confidence Coaching and Self-Care: Valentine’s Day for Self-Love

Are you exhausted and want to run away just to take care of yourself?

 

To have just a little bit of time and peace for yourself? And Valentine's Day is just the day to take that break and show yourself some love. Well, this episode is for you. 

 

Love is in the air, it's February and you either love it or hate it. Valentine's Day may be a day you love to celebrate, and you are excited to give and receive candy and chocolates. Going out to a nice candlelit dinner in a dress that makes you feel your best, and spending it with the person or people you love, whether that is a significant other, friend, child, or yourself. Or you might hate it and the commercialization of love, the pressure to give the right gift, or just sadness that you maybe don’t have a significant other to celebrate with. 

 

The new trend has been Galentines, where women celebrate with their best girlfriends or even a self-care day. 

 

Now, I love love. Love is my thing, It is one of the most essential things for life. I think we, at times, misunderstand love though.

 

If I asked you how you love yourself, what would you say? I imagine you thinking of bubble baths and taking days off work to rest, getting yourself some flowers, treating yourself to a trip to the mall, getting a nice relaxing massage, or taking yourself to your favorite restaurant. I’m relaxed just thinking about it. Wouldn’t we all love a day full of such indulgence and relaxation, I know I would. 

 

These are ways we can show ourselves love, however, these are just the tip of the iceberg, things we can do on the surface.

 

When we look deeper, self-love and self-care are these daily deeper, more intentional choices we make. They might not always be pretty or easy for that matter, but it will take you out of this yo-yo feeling of constantly feeling like you’re running on empty and these surface-level self-care things just not cutting it. 

 

For a more permanent solution, try these... because true self-love requires us to sometimes do hard things and fight for ourselves. 

 

Self-love requires honesty…

 

Self-love requires us to be honest about what we want and need. And not what we think we want or need or what we should want or need, but truly what helps us foster a sense of self-care and being taken care of. To take care of ourselves, we first need to look at what it is we need to take care of ourselves daily. That means being honest about when we’re tired and need to take a break, and when we are not able to show up emotionally and physically for others, and the people and things we need in our lives to feel supported and taken care of. What is it that you need?

 

Self-love requires us to set boundaries...

 

Self-love requires us to say no in order to honor what we want and need. To honor our energy, not run ourselves into the ground, and give away more than we have, we have to set boundaries. That means also being ok with disappointing others when we set our boundaries, say no, and put into action what truly takes care of us.

 

Self-love requires us to let others lend a hand...

 

Self-love acknowledges that things aren’t all on us. We don’t have to hold it all in or hold it together and do and be everything to everyone. To truly take care of ourselves requires us to take off the mask and ask for help, let others know that we can’t do it alone and need their help. This sometimes is the hardest part of self-care. In letting ourselves and our struggles fully be seen, by showing up and being real about our struggles, and leaning on others for support, it brings us closer to us and our needs being met.

 

With self-confidence coaching, these are the hard things I help my clients do every day. To have true self-care and self-love is an amazing feeling and a freedom that requires you to show up daily to support what you want and need.

Love is a choice that you make day to day in each choice and action you take. A choice to take care of you.

 

If you have a hard time showing yourself love, grace, and kindness, then self-confidence coaching or self-esteem or self-esteem counseling in Chicago (we’re also available online) may be the next step for you. You don’t have to solve this on your own. Book a complimentary session, during that session, I will help you see what may be getting in your way of building your confidence.

 

What has been the result of you not taking care of yourself? That may look like being overcommitted, being resentful in your relationships, this build-up of anger, feeling like you don’t matter, and feeling like you have the lower hand in your relationships. All things that don’t support self-care or self-love. I’d love to hear, simply comment or shoot me an email.

 

Happy Valentine's Day.. How will you show yourself some love this month?

 

Self Confidence Coaching

Standing Up For YOU As An Introvert

On this episode of She’s Brave we’re joined by Celena McBryde, a heart healing speaker, coach, author, and the visionary woman behind The Introverts Heart. Celena is dedicated to helping individuals elevate their lives with that "EXTRA" and transform an ordinary existence into an EXTRAordinary journey. She’s also the founder of the Hearties fellowship group, where she brings people together virtually to combat loneliness and offer support, hope, and encouragement.

 

Even though Celena is an introvert, she knows what it’s like to become too isolated—and the unhealthy coping mechanisms it can lead to. Finally, she said “yes” to what God had been calling her to do, and everything changed. She started reaching out to others and realized how much they were in need of the connection and compassion she was looking for too.

 

It may not seem like it when you first meet her, but Celena has been through a lot in her life. She’s been through rehab and substance abuse issues, she’s gotten a DUI, and she spent a lot of time looking for validation from other people.

 

But if anything, her experiences have taught her that your experiences don’t define you. It’s what is in your heart that matters. You are enough, and you don’t need to earn it, even if you are different from those around you.

 

Just because introverts don’t say something doesn’t mean they don’t see or understand what’s going on. Learning to express herself and stand up for what she needs has helped her curb her people pleasing behaviors, and she encourages others who struggle in the same way to put themselves first too.

 

 

Connect with Celena

 

Website: www.introvertsheart.com

 

Social media (Instagram, FB, YouTube, TikTok): @TheIntrovertsHeart

 

How to Ask for What You Want

Are you tired of feeling like people walk all over you or that your needs aren't important? How often do you ask for what you want? Or does the thought of that makes you want to go running for the hills. 

Continuing on with our stepping out of your comfort zone theme for this month, I want to talk about asking for what you want and more specifically how to ask for what you want. 

 

Blog Post: www.aworthyjourneytc.com/blog/how-to-ask-for-what-you-want

Book Complimentary Call:https://calendly.com/tiffanywilliamsawj/complimentary-consultation

How to Break the Habit of Avoiding Confronation

We’ve all been there, had the pit in our stomach when we wanted to speak up, let someone know that they’ve crossed the line, or ask for what we want. But we rationalize not speaking up  in our head, “It’s not a big deal, “ “I’m overreacting”, or “It’s not worth all the trouble”. We make ourselves believe that it's just a one-time thing or that the other person will respond negatively. You have so much anxiety about the whole thing so you keep quiet and don’t say anything. And of course, with all the mental hubbub going on in your head, most people would brush these things off.

But where has that led you?

How to Overcome Low Self Esteem and Insecurities

If you’ve followed along on this insecurity series then you know we’ve talked about what insecurity is, and where it may have come from, and now for our final post, we’re talking about how to overcome low self-esteem and insecurities.

 

Let’s Connect!:

Website: www.aworthyjourneytc.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/aworthyjourneytc

Blog: www.aworthyjourneytc.com/blog/

Book a Complimentary Call: https://calendly.com/tiffanywilliamsawj/complimentary-consultation

What Are the Causes of Insecurity?

Ok if you’ve read my posts about signs of insecurity you’re probably wondering what in the heck are the causes of insecurity and what do you do about it. Again, follow along this month as we break the last question down but for now, let's talk about what causes insecurity. 

 

Let's Connect!:

Website: www.aworthyjourneytc.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/aworthyjourneytc

Blog: www.aworthyjourneytc.com/blog/

Book a Complimentary Call: https://calendly.com/tiffanywilliamsawj/complimentary-consultation

What is Insecurity?

Ever had that knot in your stomach, overwhelmed, anxious, sweating, unsure feeling? If so, you my friend have experienced being insecure. Insecurity can be a fleeting feeling, one that just comes around every now and then or it can be something that has become ingrained, deeply entrenched in you, and wreaking havoc on your life, your self-esteem, and your goals. 

If you fit in the latter description then this post is for you and the next few weeks are for you because we’re not only going to be answering questions like, “What is insecurity?” but why do you feel insecure, and what can you do about it.